Man Leaves Over S$420,000 In Cash For Ex-Girlfriend As Part Of "Break Up" Fee

Man Leaves Over S$420,000 In Cash For Ex-Girlfriend As Part Of "Break Up" FeeMan Leaves Over S$420,000 In Cash For Ex-Girlfriend As Part Of "Break Up" Fee

Damn, all we got when we ended our relationships was a broken heart.

After reading the headline, you’re probably wondering, what man would give his ex-girlfriend S$420,000? Yes, we said girlfriend. Not wife, not some baby momma or anything along those lines.

In China, the concept of a “break up” fee is relatively normal. It sounds crazy and almost ridiculous to us in other parts of the world. But in China, the parting fee or break up fee is common.

According to this Forbes article, ex-girlfriends–and sometimes ex-boyfriends–can demand money in the event of a breakup.

(Here, we’re just lucky if our exes return the belongings we left in their homes in one piece…)

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Something that is rather common among Chinese urbanites, jilted lovers will ask for a “parting fee,” or “fenshou fei” or “emotional compensation,” “ganqing peichang”.  Though there are no hard and fast rules when it comes to this fee, and the law does not get involved considering the casual nature of dating, it is mostly borne by the males in the relationship.

This idea is based on the gender-biased “logic” that if a man ends his relationship, his girlfriend has effectively “wasted” prime years of her youth and has to start over in finding a husband.


For those of you who might be thinking that this is an archaic practice, let’s dispel that right now. The practice is still largely used in China.

That is how a man ended up leaving S$420,000 in cash in a bar for his ex-girlfriend, who surprisingly, turned it down.

Man pays break up fee to ex-girlfriend

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According to news site, police found a suitcase containing 2 million yuan (S$420,000) in a bar in the Cuiyuan district of Hangzhou, in Zhejiang province.

The suitcase belongs to a young IT worker in eastern China who reportedly left the suitcase in the bar after his ex-girlfriend refused to accept it as a “break-up fee”.

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Workers at the bar said two well-dressed women aged about 20 had arrived together at 10 pm on Sunday night, and was later joined by a tall, slender young man with a large silver-grey suitcase.

The three chatted until around midnight, when they began arguing. The man left abruptly, leaving the suitcase behind. The women followed soon afterwards, also without the case, according to reports.

Sounds like Bond movie.

S$420,000 in cash recovered from rejected break up fee

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The staff found the suitcase when closing the bar. They were moving the suitcase to a store room when they dropped it and it popped open, revealing bundles of 100 yuan notes.

The bar manager called the police, who seized the case full of cash amounting to 2 million yuan.

The young man had come back to the bar to look for the suitcase and was redirected to the police. He then arrived at the police station driving a Rolls-Royce, and asked to claim it.

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The man told officers he was 23 years old and worked in IT, China’s highest-paying sector.

One of the women at the bar had been his former girlfriend, he admitted to the police. She requested a “break-up fee” from him.

When questioned why she had left the suitcase, the man said she had asked for 10 million yuan and he believed the sum of money he brought was too small. He said the woman had messaged him after leaving the bar to say she had not taken the money.

After the police confirmed the man’s identity, they returned the suitcase full of cash to him.


Would you practice this concept of paying out a breakup fee with your exes? Do you think it’s too farfetched? Let us know your thoughts in the comments. 

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Sarah Voon