Should Men Be Obligated To Buy Women Expensive Things? We Don't Think So

It's normal for men to give gifts to their wives or girlfriends. But, should buying expensive things be an obligation for men?

Recently, the story of a man who saved up money to buy his girlfriend an expensive bag became viral. According to the man, he felt that it was his obligation to pamper his girlfriend as much as possible. This includes buying expensive things for her.

You can check out his original post that was shared over 14,000 times below:

However, we can't help but think that this way of thinking isn't exactly healthy in a relationship.

Read on to learn the reason why.

Buying expensive things: Should men always do it?

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For anyone who's currently in a relationship, whether you're dating, engaged, or married, giving gifts is always a nice gesture. It feels great to give gifts to your significant other, and it's great to receive gifts as well.

But things can quickly turn sour if gift-giving suddenly becomes an obligation or even a requirement in the relationship.

Why? Because what's going to happen if suddenly, the man is unable to buy an expensive gift? The woman might feel that the man's feelings have changed, or that he doesn't value her as much. Constantly giving expensive gifts sets an expectation, and when that expectation is met, problems can arise.

It's also not wise for a man to constantly spend his hard-earned money on expensive gifts. It might provide temporary gratification, but in the long run, it might cost him his savings for the future!

The inverse applies to women as well. Some women pamper their significant others too much with expensive gifts, and it makes it seem like the only reason why they're together is because of the gifts that are being given.

It's not the price of the gift, but the meaning it has

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Having a mindset of "expensive gifts are better than less expensive ones" isn't a good thing to have. That's because for the most part, gifts are only for the short-term and it can easily seem like a waste of money.

This is because the money can be better invested in something that will pay off in the future.

For example, instead of buying expensive gifts every month, what if that money was spent towards saving up for a marriage? Or maybe property, like a house or a flat?

One of the best gifts that a man can give his significant other is the gift of financial stability. A relationship becomes more secure if a couple feels confident that they're not going to have any sort of money problems down the road.

Thinking for the long-term is a good habit to have, not just in relationships, but also for your personal peace of mind.

It's also important to give gifts whose value isn't in the price tag, but in the meaning it has.

Gifts are supposed to bring joy and make the receiver feel loved and cared for. And that's something that expensive gifts don't always have.


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