Why do we bother with engagement rings? Isn’t a verbal promise enough?
Some people choose to skip getting an engagement ring altogether, but you can’t deny that the ring is hella romantic. Just the gesture of someone kneeling to the ground, the ring offered in an outstretched hand as he asks his partner to spend the rest of their life with him, is enough to make even the most jaded of us believe in love again.
So let’s not do away with engagement rings. Are they unnecessary? Perhaps. But so are many of the things that exist just to make us happy.
Engagement rings shopping etiquette: Don't follow!
We do think, however, that there are “engagement ring rules” that should be totally forgotten. Here are a few things we think you should know when engagement ring shopping.
1. Your man doesn’t have to spend two or three months’ salary on it
Some people (*cough* jewellers *cough*) have perpetuated the notion that any decent man would shell out at least one or two months’ salary on a ring. Cause otherwise, he doesn't love you. Obviously. (/s)
If your guy can afford to spend that much on a ring, that’s all well and good, but you have to take into account you and your future spouse’s financial situations.
Don’t pressure your guy into buying an expensive ring if you know he can’t afford it. Your ring doesn’t have to cost a buttload — you’re marrying the person, not the jewellery.
2. You don't have to go to a traditional jeweller go engagement ring shopping
You can buy virtually anything online, and that applies to engagement rings as well. In fact, you’ll probably be able to save money when you buy online. Just make sure that you’re buying from reputable sellers, and that they have the paperwork to verify that your ring is the real deal.
3. It doesn't have to be a total surprise
Sure, being surprised with The Ring of Your Dreams is more than ideal, but even the most attentive of men can struggle when it comes to choosing a ring. If you’re starting to talk about marriage, you can nudge him in the right direction to help him along. Or you can take it a step further and choose your engagement ring together.
4. Wearing an engagement ring doesn't make you a bad feminist
Okay, we have to admit that the history behind engagement rings isn’t exactly feminist. In fact, it’s the total opposite of that — they were used to say “this woman is taken, back off”, but the same wasn’t expected of men.
But if you want to rock a diamond solitaire ring or a more low-key band, then that’s your choice. Wear one if it makes you happy. Don’t wear one if you don’t want to. Going with your gut is the feminist choice.
Are you shopping for an engagement ring? Let us know all about it in the comments!
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